“I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love.”
~Carrie Bradshaw - Sex In The City
I've spent 22 Valentine's Days with Jeff, I'd be lying if I said I didn't hope for 22 more.
It hasn't been easy and we've had to work for ALL 22 years. It's definitely been worth it. For the first time in several years I feel like he and I are back on track. We both decided that we'd let things become too comfortable. We let too much of our lives focus on the kids and none of it working on us. If anyone ever tells you that marriage is easy they are lying.
Real love is donuts and soda every morning. It's taking his kids to school EVERY morning.
Ridiculous is finding out less than 2 years in we were having Triplets. Uber-Ridiculous!
Inconvenient is stopping everything because your wife is sick and needs to be carted to the clinic several times in one week. It's him taking off work to stay home with a sick baby because it's your busy season at work.
Consuming is feeling like you need him the way a person needs air or food; feeling like you wouldn't be able to breathe without him. Sometimes so much so that it's painful.
Can't-live-without-each-other love is watching The Notebook and hoping that your "ends" happen in that very same way. Knowing that when you remember NOTHING else you will always remember him.
Does it always feel ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming or can't-live-without-each-other love? No but it has always, ALWAYS felt real.
I've told my daughters that if the guy they are with doesn't treat them how their dad has always treated me then he is not worth the time or energy.
Real love is knowing that you would do it all again...
EXACTLY the same way.
December 18, 1992
We were 20 and 24 years old
May 10, 2011
No longer 20 and 24...
Happy Valentine's Day!